“Hi, how are you?”

hi how are you
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Hi.
How are you?
How was your day?
Would love to hear all about it!

This is my routine with munchkin everyday. This simple act has many uses:
a) It’s my way of hearing what went on at school (and at afterschool)
b) it keeps her engaged so she doesn’t run off down the sidewalk (little trick I learned โ˜บ)
c) It encourages her to think about the appropriate answer for my question
d) it trains her to remember events in chronological order

Living in the fast-paced environment as New York can make us forget the simpler things in life that bring us joy.ย A simple “Hi, how are you?” is said without even expecting a real answer. The words just fall out of our mouths and we keep moving. And if by chance we linger just long enough to get a reply then we’re actually surprised!

I’m guilty of the aforementioned scenario and when a person opens up and really starts telling me EVERYTHING I wonder how long they’ve been waiting to have someone ask and genuinely listen.

Been feeling a little lonely lately. I miss having deep, intelligent, grownup conversations with people who actually know how to listen effectively. There are a few people with whom I communicate regularly but I keep them at arms length because something is missing. They simply don’t know how to engage in conversation that demonstrates reciprocity and at the end of it I’m either exhausted, frustrated or disgusted and have made a mental note to not do that again any time soon. So I write, read your blogs, comment, and read the comments of others. It’s the next best thing to conversation. And though it is by no means a substitute for a live, warm body with whom to chat, or to ask about their day, and to hear their recount and relish every detail, it helps to have a few ears out there in Blog Land to honestly listen.

Thanks as always for taking the time to read and comment. You are appreciated!

Hugs and best wishes,
A.

 

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Originally published: December 6 2015


Contents written: November 26 2015 | Copyright 2015 Moylom Enterprises


 

20 thoughts on ““Hi, how are you?””

  1. I understand what you’re saying here; I feel the same way. I like the blogging world for the same reason you mentioned.

    Hugs and best wishes to you as well๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿค—

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      1. Well that’s a great way to look at life. Living each day as if there is no tomorrow means each new day has potential to be the best yet! I love that.

        My day was a bit ordinary but I achieved a lot and managed to make it home fairly early.

        Just received my grocery delivery so I’m making dinner. โ˜บ

        All in all, a good day.

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  2. I enjoy your blog very much! When my boys were little I had to ask questions that forced an answer longer than one word. Things like what was your favorite part of the day? What was for lunch, etc. Lol, otherwise it was always fine, okay, nothing…

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    1. Yep, that’s actually funny. There are days I’d ask her about her day and she’d say nothing happened. So then I ask, “well do I need to come talk to your teacher to find out why there were no activities all day? She usually yells, ” noooooo ” at which point I repeat my original question, ” so what happened at school today? ” I usually get a proper answer that time. ๐Ÿ˜€

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