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Boys vs Men

Their attraction turned to conversations.

Their conversations turned to glances.

Their glances turned to smiles.

Their smiles turned to closeness.

Their closeness turned to touch.

Their touch turned to warm embraces.

Their warm embraces turned to anticipation.

Their anticipation turned to desire.

Their desire turned to love.

Their love turned to ‘his’ fear.

His fear turned to his flight.

His flight turned to his disappearance.

His disappearance turned to her disgust of men!

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Contents compiled: January 18 2018
Originally published: February 3 2018
Copyright © 2017-2018 Agong of Love


Don’t!!!!

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Don’t!
Don’t play games with me!!!
If you don’t mean
anything you’re about to say,
then for heaven’s sake, 
just don’t say it!!!!!

I have enough BS
in my life right now.
I don’t need to hear
another ‘line’
from your corny ‘playbook’!!!!
And no,
it’s not that funny,
I know you weren’t kidding.
Don’t be a coward,
Stand by your words!

Omg,
Are you kidding me right now?
Seriously?
Please,
Just take your lame game
else where!

Bye…

* Guys,  if a woman has no interest in dating,  this is what she’s thinking when you’re trying to get her attention.

 


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Contents compiled: March 24 2017
Originally published: March 24 2017
Copyright © 2016 Inner Ramblings Boulevard


Lipstick bandit

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You blew through my mind like a tornado

Causing quite a stir as always.

It’s been a while since I thought of you,

Where have you been?

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You stole my heart once

But it wasn’t yours to keep.

I was not yet ready

For the adventures you had in mind,

Nor the secrets you weren’t prepared to share.

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You always knew how to make me smile though…

A little unsure, a little wild, a little twisted

But always sweet — to me anyway.

Thanks for returning my heart in one piece!

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What brings you back to these here parts?

I thought you were gone for good!

Is it possible that I’m in your thoughts as well?

If so, thanks for thinking of me —

And thanks for the memories!

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Hope you’ve been kind to yourself,

Or at least found someone

Who’s been treating you well.

You deserve to be happy,

I’ve always wanted that for you and still do.

*

Be well…


Contents written: September 15 2015  |  Copyright 2015 Moylom Enterprises



Stolen glances

stolen glances

 

Stolen glances
Two strangers
They coexist intermittently
Taking the same train home.

Stolen glances
No longer
They instead smile Familiarly
Months go by – – it’s a small world.

They sit together now.
They chat, or just ride silently
Reading, writing or listening to music
A familiar face is nice.

The next time they meet
Not on the train
But at the movies
Stolen glances no longer
But a warm embrace.

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*Originally published March 2015


Contents written: January 7 2015. Edited February 23 & March 14 2015  |  Copyright 2015 Moylom Enterprises


The line has been drawn…: Part 2: I see it now…

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I stopped by to say hello,

perhaps to chat for a while

but I did not enter

for what I saw from outside

made me rethink my purpose in your life

and yours in mine.

You seemed happy in your misery,

bored — in need of excitement

for there is none where you are.

But then it occurred to me

that I am your excitement

and nothing more —

something to distract you

from the misery you love —

too lazy to create happiness you seek

you took the easy way out —

to prey on the weak.

And when the fun becomes serious

and more than you bargained for

you disengage,

leaving your prey

lost and confused.

How cruel!

So I will visit no more

for I see you now

for what you really are,

no better than all the others

happily miserable in your life

and useless to me in mine.

As you were soldier,

no need to stand at attention

no more need for formalities

the show is over — Goodbye!


Contents written: July 26 2015  |  Edited: September 6 2015  |  Copyright 2015 Moylom Enterprises


“Their Story”: The Prequel

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Image Source: Google images (pinstopin.com)

Her heart’s desire… (Before they met)

Push me
Out of my comfort zone
So I may broaden my horizons,
And aspire to great things with you.

Thrill me
With laughter, intrigue, and wisdom
So we may share in all the fun
Two hearts can find together.

Woo me
With your kindness, love,
Sincerity, and loyalty
So we may grow old together
In our own ‘happily ever after’.

Encourage me
To seek God first
Before all else
So He may guide
Our paths in unison.

Challenge me
To be healthy, to be frugal,
To be open, to be me.
So we may age gracefully,
Happily,  two minds as one.

Adore me
Everyday, in ways
That always surprise me
For my eyes and heart
Will only be for you.

Inspire me
To pursue my dreams,
To have an opinion, to be unique
For my independent spirit
Needs room to fly,
But I will always return to you.

Converse with me
About your hopes, your dreams,
Your interests,  your worries.
You will have my ear, my shoulder,
My advice, my inspiration,
My encouragement, my adoration,
My laughter, my love, my heart…

Hold with care
My hand, my heart,
My body, my soul
And cherish them always!

[This is the Prequel: Part 1 to the series entitled “Their Story”. See Prequel: Part 2 below or Start “Their Story” from the beginning]


Contents written: July 20 2015  |  Edited: August 5 & October 31 2015  |  Originally published: August 6 2015  |  Copyright 2015 Moylom Enterprises


 

How they met 

It was a Sunday.
She was sitting outside
enjoying the remnants
of a lovely summer-like day in early Fall.
Her head was down, buried in her phone,
Avoiding eye-contact, behind her sunglasses.
It was a routine she’d mastered well —
It kept many away.
And those who dared to gain entry
Were usually ‘shot down’ on the spot.
Why?
Because “Love” was not her friend.

Love was the enemy!
She had no control over it.
It controlled her.
It was never where she expected it to be
And every time she found it
She ended up hurt as a result.
She had given up on the whole concept.
She concluded it was evil
And decided to keep her distance.

He came along her blindside.
She had no time to prepare
a defense maneuver.
He approached and crossed several barriers
in a few short steps:
– He addressed her directly and confidently
– He invited her out
– He engaged her in very intelligent conversation;
– He wasn’t afraid of her bodyguard dog.

She was impressed but still skeptical.
She relentlessly tried to discourage his advances
For she knew her past would be hard to accept
But he was steadfast
(And delightfully cute).
He saw past her pain
And caught a glimpse of her soul —
He wanted to see her again.

Immersed in deep conversation
They could have gone on effortless for hours
Unfortunately he had to leave,
But before he did
He bestowed upon her and
Her family a special wish,
Then he said goodbye.

Unsure if she’d ever see him again,
(Dating can be such a cruel game to some)
She pondered his words
Along with the fact
That he found a way
To get inside her space —
Her bubble of safety —
Which could sometimes be a bit lonely.

She didn’t think she had much to offer
Given her situation
And she’d told him so.
She’d had a tough life,
Which made her outwardly strong
But broken inside, jaded, skeptical
And a little less hopeful,
But he didn’t care!

So this is me.
Take me as I am
And I’ll do the same but
Proceed at your own risk!

Those were her words to him and so began “Their Story”…


[This is the Prequel: Part 2 of a series entitled “Their Story”. Stay tuned for a spin-off series or Start from the beginning]

 


Contents written: October 15 2015  |  Edited: October 31 & November 4 2015  |  Copyright 2015 Moylom Enterprises 


The line has been drawn…

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Yesterday, in one of our marathon phone conversations which meandered from one topic to the next, we eventually landed on the topic of family and friends. At that point I informed mom that should any relatives begin inquiring of my whereabouts and/or well being in the upcoming months it would be because I’ve stopped making it a top priority to check on them on a regular basis. Why? Because I’ve drawn a line in the sand and it’s been long overdue. You know what she said? “I don’t blame you?”

Someone told me once that I care too much and I was shocked that those words were said about me. I don’t know how to NOT care — it’s the way I was made. I always go above and beyond and it’s just the way I am. My clients have said how much they appreciate that quality, but for some reason family and friends take advantage of my kindness or simply don’t appreciate it. But with age comes wisdom and I’m now understanding what that individual meant, which leads me to the new-found explanation of those words heard so long ago:

It’s not that I care too much but that I need to be more wise about the things and people I care about.

Hmm… why didn’t I understand this years ago? Perhaps because I spent so many of those years trying to make everyone happy not realizing the impossible task with which I burdened myself.

Caring takes a lot of energy and emotion. It forces one to put oneself in another’s shoes to truly understand, if only slightly, what that person is going through and what they need to feel better if down or to share in celebration of the good times. For some reason I’m good at that, and many folks have often asked if I am/was a nurse. (I actually thought of becoming a nurse once, but later discovered I was trying to fulfill my mom’s dream not my own. But that a whole other post!!!). No I’m not a nurse, it’s just a God-given gift I guess, just something that comes naturally.

So, now I’ve begun the task of eliminating those folks who fail to understand that emails, phone calls, what’s app, viber, text messages, Facebook messenger and all other modes of communication WORK BOTH WAYS!!! I am no longer going to be the only one to reach out, I’ve done it that way for too long and now it must stop. If the thought never crosses their minds to say hello and actually do so then I too will not do so. A friend recently reminded me how awful it is to “give to the point of resentment “. Yes I know, I know, God loves a cheerful giver, and all these years I HAVE been cheerful about the care and consideration I gave to others. I didn’t care if those folks reciprocated, I was just happy to remember their birthdays, anniversaries and delighted to check in to see how they were doing. But how come they never remember to inquire about me? And that right there is the problem and why “the line” needed to be drawn.

I’m not the needy type; I don’t ask for anything; I’m independent and never in trouble (not much anyways) so I’m wondering if folks automatically think I’m OK and there’s no need to check on me. Well I’m not gonna sit here and speculate, I don’t have time for that. As I get older I’m less tolerant of the lack of consideration shown by others and as such have drawn a line to signify my decision.

Wow, I just reread the above and boy do I sound angry! Well I am. It’s time to worry about my needs after all these years of neglect by others and sadly by me.

I messaged a very dear lady whom I was fortunate to meet during a very dark period of my life a few years ago. I’ve been so grateful for her support that I always check in with her from time to time. She actually got angry with me for speaking mostly of my kids and not of myself. She said,

Everytime I hear from you, you go on and on about the kids, about how well they’re doing and how much they’re thriving but what about you? How are you? How is your personal life? Are you dating? Are you working on a life separate from your kids? I hope you’re not locking yourself away from love? Please know that you deserve love too!

At first I got upset that she had somehow set a timetable for my life without my permission. Here I was thinking my personal life was my own! (Aside from WordPress of course). I knew fully well that I’m not ready for all that, and unsure as to when or if I ever will be. I’m still learning to trust again, terrified of failing as a parent — a single parent — and only capable of worrying about one day at a time given everything else I have on my plate. Dating and new relationships take time, and I’m not ready to invest such a valuable asset (my time) without adequate returns. I know my dear friend means well so I’m not angry that she was stern but I need to spend a little more time weeding my garden so the beautiful flowers can bloom and be seen — I’m gonna spend some time pampering “me”.

So here’s to laying the dead to rest to make room for the living — new life — new beginnings! Here’s to moving on at my own pace, one step at a time.

Thank you Ms K for caring enough to be stern. I’m not mad. Happier updates ahead I promise! ((Hugs)) ^_^


Contents written July 15 2015 | Edited: July 18 & 21 2015 | Copyright 2015 Moylom Enterprises